The 27 Questions Guests Will Ask About Your Sangeet, Mehendi, and Haldi
Every Indian wedding event triggers its own avalanche of guest questions. Here are the 27 most common ones — and exactly how to set up your AI concierge to answer them before they're asked.
Sangeet, Mehendi and Haldi generate the most guest confusion of any Indian wedding events — guests ask 27 recurring questions across arrival time, dress code, food, alcohol, kids policy, indoor vs outdoor, and whether the event is family-only or open.
Of every event in an Indian wedding, the sangeet, mehendi, and haldi generate the most guest confusion. Why? Because these aren't standardised. A Punjabi sangeet looks different from a Gujarati one. A North Indian mehendi runs differently from a Sindhi one. A South Indian haldi may or may not even happen.
Your guests — especially those marrying in from outside your community — don't know what to expect. They ask. A lot.
We pulled the most common guest questions from our pilot couples' AI concierge transcripts. Here are the 27 that came up across nearly every wedding. Use this as your checklist for what to upload before going live.
Sangeet (9 most-asked questions)
- What time should I arrive? — Crucial because sangeets often have a "warm-up" hour before the choreographed performances start. Tell guests when the real fun begins.
- Are there performances I need to know about? — If guests have any role (group dance, song, family number), they want to know early.
- What's the dress code? — Indo-western? Jewel tones? Specific color theme? Be specific. "Indo-western festive, jewel tones encouraged" is better than "Indo-western." If you need event-wise copy, use these Indian wedding dress code wording templates.
- Will there be a stage / DJ / live band? — Sets expectations for what kind of energy to bring.
- Is dinner served, or just snacks? — Surprisingly common. Especially for guests coming straight from work or a flight.
- Is alcohol available? — Important for guests who don't drink or who do.
- Can I bring my partner / kids? — Plus-one policy varies wildly. Be explicit.
- Where do I sit? — Reserved seating? Open seating? Sofas vs chairs?
- What time does it end? — Sangeets famously run late. Older guests need to plan their exit.
Mehendi (9 most-asked questions)
- Is this just for women, or co-ed? — Traditional vs modern formats differ. Tell guests.
- What's the dress code? — Typically pastels / florals, but say it explicitly.
- Should I be expecting mehendi on my hands? — Some couples invite guests to get henna done. Others don't. Clarify.
- What time will mehendi artists be available? — If you're providing henna, give a time window so guests can plan.
- What food / drink will be served? — Brunch? Chaat counter? Mocktails?
- Is there entertainment? — Music, kitty games, mehendi competitions — let guests know.
- How long should I plan to stay? — Mehendi often blurs into lunch which blurs into rest, then sangeet. Help guests pace themselves.
- Can elderly guests come? — Mehendi is usually low-energy and elder-friendly, but say so.
- Will it be indoors or outdoors? — Critical for outfit choice and comfort planning.
Haldi (9 most-asked questions)
- Is the haldi family-only or open to all guests? — In some communities it's intimate, in others it's a full party. Specify clearly.
- What should I wear? — Crucially: warn guests that haldi turmeric will stain. "Yellow, white, or anything you're okay getting paste on" is the gold standard; the dress code wording guide has a copy-paste version for Haldi, Mehendi, and Sangeet.
- Will I be expected to apply haldi? — Some haldis are participatory; others are watch-only.
- When is it happening? — Haldi timing varies — same morning as the wedding, day before, etc.
- Indoor or outdoor? — Sun, mats, and yellow water are involved. Guests need to know.
- What food is served? — Often light pre-wedding food; sometimes a full meal.
- Is it photo-heavy? — Yes, almost always. Tell guests if there's a designated photographer or if they should bring phones.
- Are there any rituals I should know about? — If your community has specific haldi traditions, brief guests so they aren't lost.
- Will I need to change before the next event? — Haldi → wedding is often a tight turnaround. Tell guests if there's a buffer.
How to upload this for your AI
For each event, write a short text file or paste a paragraph into your wedding's Events panel:
Sangeet — 13 February 2026, 7:30 PM onwards
Venue: The Leela Palace, Garden Lawn, Jaipur
Dress code: Indo-western festive, jewel tones encouraged (no all-white)
Schedule:
7:30 PM — Cocktails and snacks
8:30 PM — Choreographed performances begin
10:00 PM — Dinner buffet opens
12:00 AM — DJ and dancing
2:00 AM — Wraps up
Notes:
- Valet parking at Gate 3
- Kids welcome until 11 PM, supervised play area available
- Vegetarian + non-veg buffet
- Soft + hard drinks served
- Late arrivals are absolutely fine
Do this for each event. Upload your invitation PDF if you have one — the AI will read it automatically.
The shortcut: dump your event WhatsApp group chat
If you've been planning your wedding for any length of time, you have at least one WhatsApp group with friends/family discussing logistics. Export the chat (Settings → Export Chat → Without Media) and upload the .txt file.
The AI extracts what's relevant. It ignores the gossip. We've tested this — it works surprisingly well.
One last tip: write a "What if my guest is confused?" backup
End your welcome message with a clear escalation path:
"For anything urgent or specific, message [wedding coordinator name] on WhatsApp at +91 99999 99999. They respond within 30 minutes during planning hours (9 AM – 9 PM)."
The AI handles 80% of questions. The coordinator handles the 20% that require human judgment. You and your partner handle 0% of either, and get to enjoy your wedding.
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